The word “no”

We have been familiar with the word “no” since childhood, right? So, why as adults we tend to forget it exists? We have neglected or freedom of speech by not letting the words leave our lips! We have been mistreated, overworked, unappreciated, overlooked and etc.. Why? Because we have forgotten that sweet word. If you want a cherry on top of that sweetness add “sorryyyyyy, no”. You may feel a small ball forming in the back of your throat. Don’t worry! It comes from that amazing heart of yours. It’s basically yearning to fulfill everyone’s wants and needs. Not today! Fix your posture and own the ground underneath your feet by walking your imaginary runway!

Saying “No” Could Be Hard!

Some human beings want to show respect, kindness and love to everyone. During Adam and Eve’s (before the eviction) time that would have been possible. In 2021 that’s just not the case and it’s truly sad. We have to have this certain boldness to our character. As a toddler the value of “no” is embedded in your mind. When at that age we’re wondering “why, can’t we fart fairy dust and eat candy off the floor”. As we age the meaning and way of using “no” has elevated, completely. It can cause positive and negative effects for relationships, businesses , households and future endeavors. “No” can cause fear and fear can prevent progress. “No”can lead to unwanted confrontations or it could build a stronger foundation. Fear hinders us from seeing what the outcome will be. So, we become “yes” men and women.

The “Should’ve And Could’ve”

I should’ve said “N to the O” a few times. I know you guys can relate, right? We have a tendency to add mental and physical damage to our lives and spirit. Self inflicted pain and mental abuse can be a tough pill to swallow. It comes with self esteem issues, guilt, anger and resentment toward ourselves. So, we say “I’m so stupid, I should’ve left in the beginning” or “I could’ve done this” but that’s not the case. In that moment you were right where you needed to be. Sometimes, we have to get “sick and tired of being sick and tired”in order to make a change. Experience, strength and wisdom is gained by going through turmoil. No, I’m not saying you need to go through some Tyler Perry turmoil but just a little. The “should’ve and could’ve” is of the past and it’s given you the courage to determine what’s best for your life. The times you should have said “no” but didn’t is now apart of your testimony. It has prepared you to say “no” and treasure your worth and peace of mind.

Some Of The Top “No’s”

1. If something is going to affect your mental state, no!

2. If something makes you question your character and morals, no!

3. If a relationship is one sided, no!

4. If it’s finically hurting you, no!

5. if it’s causing you physical pain, no!

6. If it’s taking up valuable time, no!

7. If it will dismantle your household, no!

8. If it’s going to cause you spiritual warfare, NO!

The list can go on but for now, we’ll stop here. “Slow and steady” wins the race, right? We are in this journey to being the best version of ourselves together.

Peace And Love B-Fam!

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